This kind of stress is the result of worrying about an event that is about to happen, although sometimes you may be worried because you have no idea what is about to happen. For example, when you attend a meeting with an important figure; when you engage in a high-stakes negotiation; or when you are scheduled to perform at a public speaking event. Sometimes the event cannot be known in advance. For example, you might worry about the future of your business or about relationship problems with others. But this kind of stress is a product of our own thoughts, so its only remedy is to think differently. Some of the techniques I use to alleviate this kind of stress are outlined below: 1. Negative Thinking (seriously?) 2. Confidence Building 3. Positive Thinking 4. Breathing Exercise If your stress is the result of worrying that something bad might happen, you should try to think about it carefully and with composure. In most cases, the source of our worries—the thing that had been keeping us up at night—proves to be not so bad after all, and even its worst possible resolution seems just about bearable. Most of our worries are products of our imagination, and by worrying about potentially terrible outcomes. Try to analyze the situation, ask yourself what bad things might happen and come up with a worst-case scenario. Make a list of possible outcomes, and when you finish making the list, don't just sit around aimlessly: think of ways to prevent undesirable outcomes and minimize the possibility of things going wrong, until you feel confident that you are in control. For example, there is no better way to overcome your fear of public speaking than practice, practice, and more practice. Eventually your confidence will grow, and your fear of public speaking will naturally fade away. You may even start to feel excited whenever you get the chance to show off your skills. A recommended technique here is the “positive visualization”.
Positive visualization suppress negative thoughts by giving the brain a mental image of what success might look like, and thereby opening up a pathway for us to realize that success. By following these simple steps, you will find that many of your worries will start to fade away. In addition, the breathing exercise as mentioned in the first 3 steps of Positive Visualization is also useful to stop being nervous. This is because this method focuses the mind on the focus points at the present, rather than on things which have not yet come to pass. Be warned, however, that although breathing exercise can stabilize the mind, it cannot solve the root cause of a problem. This is why when the exercise ends, thoughts of distraction may return. Further Reading : How Much Control Do You Really Have over Yourself
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